Thank you for writing this. Your post helps promote understanding and compassion for what trans and non-binary folks have to go through. I’m glad you’ve gotten to the place where you’re happy about your appearance.
Jo. I’m a friend of your mom’s. I’ve met you a couple times, follow your writings and have always been so impressed with your genius and experimentation. Now I can add that I’m impressed with your deep insight and sensitivity and amazing heart. I love your line “A person's gender and genitalia matter little to me compared to the qualities they have as a person.” Thanks so much for helping this 68 year old keep updated on our changing and opening world.
A powerful read, and powerful to "come out" whatever that means to (and more importantly, FOR) you!! Agreed that hopefully "coming out" will be a concept/language of the past some day. Happy to know you, Jo!
Just stumbled onto this from Google. You've just more or less summarised how I feel about my own transition (enby 1.5 years on HRT) and gender in general. It pretty much sucks but it hurts less to do it than not to, and I can't believe I've been previously living a lie for 43 years. When I started I thought, hmm I'm gonna try shaving my beard for once but I'm not gonna get laser just yet, because my beard has always been one of the features that made me handsome and all the ladies liked. A few months ago I finally started laser because I suddenly thought, handsome, sure, but who the fuck was that person? Not me I can tell you that. I've moved forward since then, what sense would it make to regrow that beard and move back to pretending?
Anyway reading you talking about coming out and not wanting to realy brought some tears out. I don't seem to have anywhere near the confidence or supportive environment you have, some people have been supportive but more from afar. I'm 100% with you that gender is made up, and I don't care so much if people misgender me either, but I do care that it's a thing so many people get hung up on in other ways, from either side of the trans/non-trans divide, and that's what turns it into a "thing" and an elephant in the room if you don't come out to people, which then turns it into even more of a thing.
But what bothers me the most is the extreme lack of solid science for medical gender transition, still, which is why I googled "biohacking gender transition" and ran across your article. I'm terrified of surgery, and yet the dysphoria that some of my facial and body features give me are still significantly affecting my life and ability to function as a person in society. I feel like we should be able to do better by now but not nearly enough people think it's important enough that we do. I wish I was born in an age where kids are allowed to simply determine their gender and we have both the technology and the logistical means (fuck health insurance) to actually do it without spending all of your available time, money and energy on it.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts about it, it's nice to find someone who seems to have sane, fairly ego-free thoughts about the subject for a change. Makes me a feel a bit less alone in this world.
I'm glad you found this. The truth is you don't need to do surgery or anything. Just take it day by day. That worked really well for me. Find what makes you comfortable but also don't be afraid to push yourself a little bit. Much love in your journey.
Hi Jo. I think that much you might receive negative feedback about how you look like there is the same amount or may be more of people who are positive or even admire you for what you are or becoming. I am one of those. The thing is that we are more curious that make us more quite.
hey Jo! Stopping by to show my appreciation of what you. I might never use any product of yours or similar to what you do right here, but the work your doing is definitely a huge step forward for all the humanity. It's like when Apple made computers available for the small folk! I never really understood this cultural war between cis and LGBT, but when it comes to progress you have it nailed!
The mighty Doctor Jo Zaynor! Thank you for sharing so much with us and being so vulnerable. You’re brilliant, and brave.
Thank you for writing this. Your post helps promote understanding and compassion for what trans and non-binary folks have to go through. I’m glad you’ve gotten to the place where you’re happy about your appearance.
This!
To quote Captain Holt from Brooklyn 99,
“Every time a person steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place.”
Congrats :)
Jo. I’m a friend of your mom’s. I’ve met you a couple times, follow your writings and have always been so impressed with your genius and experimentation. Now I can add that I’m impressed with your deep insight and sensitivity and amazing heart. I love your line “A person's gender and genitalia matter little to me compared to the qualities they have as a person.” Thanks so much for helping this 68 year old keep updated on our changing and opening world.
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Good luck and please take care of yourself!
Btw I like how in the one picture where you have boobs you are wearing an owl shirt. (Get it, hooters? Lol ;) )
lol
I love to see that your funny bone isn't broken. I have only ever felt better about the world once I knew you were in it too. Onward through the fog.
A powerful read, and powerful to "come out" whatever that means to (and more importantly, FOR) you!! Agreed that hopefully "coming out" will be a concept/language of the past some day. Happy to know you, Jo!
Ps. if you ever need/want an updated collage portrait, give me a shout - my gift in celebration of you!
Aww, thanks Katia!
I just had a similar conversation with my friend recently. Wonderful to see you embracing you.
You should consult a bit with Blaire White about what you are doing and why.
Just stumbled onto this from Google. You've just more or less summarised how I feel about my own transition (enby 1.5 years on HRT) and gender in general. It pretty much sucks but it hurts less to do it than not to, and I can't believe I've been previously living a lie for 43 years. When I started I thought, hmm I'm gonna try shaving my beard for once but I'm not gonna get laser just yet, because my beard has always been one of the features that made me handsome and all the ladies liked. A few months ago I finally started laser because I suddenly thought, handsome, sure, but who the fuck was that person? Not me I can tell you that. I've moved forward since then, what sense would it make to regrow that beard and move back to pretending?
Anyway reading you talking about coming out and not wanting to realy brought some tears out. I don't seem to have anywhere near the confidence or supportive environment you have, some people have been supportive but more from afar. I'm 100% with you that gender is made up, and I don't care so much if people misgender me either, but I do care that it's a thing so many people get hung up on in other ways, from either side of the trans/non-trans divide, and that's what turns it into a "thing" and an elephant in the room if you don't come out to people, which then turns it into even more of a thing.
But what bothers me the most is the extreme lack of solid science for medical gender transition, still, which is why I googled "biohacking gender transition" and ran across your article. I'm terrified of surgery, and yet the dysphoria that some of my facial and body features give me are still significantly affecting my life and ability to function as a person in society. I feel like we should be able to do better by now but not nearly enough people think it's important enough that we do. I wish I was born in an age where kids are allowed to simply determine their gender and we have both the technology and the logistical means (fuck health insurance) to actually do it without spending all of your available time, money and energy on it.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts about it, it's nice to find someone who seems to have sane, fairly ego-free thoughts about the subject for a change. Makes me a feel a bit less alone in this world.
I'm glad you found this. The truth is you don't need to do surgery or anything. Just take it day by day. That worked really well for me. Find what makes you comfortable but also don't be afraid to push yourself a little bit. Much love in your journey.
Hi Jo. I think that much you might receive negative feedback about how you look like there is the same amount or may be more of people who are positive or even admire you for what you are or becoming. I am one of those. The thing is that we are more curious that make us more quite.
hey Jo! Stopping by to show my appreciation of what you. I might never use any product of yours or similar to what you do right here, but the work your doing is definitely a huge step forward for all the humanity. It's like when Apple made computers available for the small folk! I never really understood this cultural war between cis and LGBT, but when it comes to progress you have it nailed!
Respect
This is some good writing. You're doing some good shit. Also, you look a lot younger now.
No fear, carry on!
My best friend ❤️🔥
Hey congrats! Onward.
I’m so proud of you. You are creating something beautiful. Yourself. Thank you Dr. Jo. Xo
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